There's No Such Thing as Cheating
By Chad Tackett, President of Global Health and Fitness
www.weightlossgold.com
Dear Friend,
There's no right or wrong way to eat. Healthy eating is all about motivation,
balance, and flexibility. There will be times when you eat a high-fat
meal or eat beyond fullness, or when your schedule gets so busy that
you miss a work-out. This happens. It's normal. But it's very important
that you don't get down on yourself and abandon your new healthy lifestyle
when this happens.
If you're like most people, your reaction to these diet/fitness obstacles
is guilt. You feel as if all your hard work has been for nothing. "I
blew it; I was doing so well. Oh well, I might as well enjoy this weekend
and start over on Monday." Or even worse: "I just don't have
the motivation or will power to start over and be successful. I quit."
Feeling defeated, many people discontinue the healthy living and return
to their old routine until some mythical time in the future: "Maybe
this spring will be a better time to start over again." This kind
of scenario is a perfect example of the diet mentality at work.
An all-or-nothing attitude is why so many people have so little success;
we choose structured programs because they relieve us from making choices
for ourselves. A properly designed program makes sense, but expecting
to stick to a structured eating and exercise plan for an extended period
of time without ever deviating makes no sense at all. In fact, this
is so unrealistic as to be a set-up for failure. If you begin to change
your habits with the assumption that any deviation from your plan will
ruin it, you might as well not even begin. Life is full of unplanned
obstacles, distractions, and temptations. Your best approach is to prepare
for them, keeping an open mind and maintaining a positive attitude.
It's very important that you begin your healthier lifestyle with an
understanding that there will be days when you will stray from healthy
eating and exercising. Before you begin, tell yourself that no matter
what happens, rather than abandoning your new lifestyle, you'll resume
your healthy habits as soon as you can; it is equally important that
you feel confident, not guilty, about doing so. Whatever the temptation
or obstacle is, keep in mind that it's not wrong or bad to eat fattening
foods once in a while or to miss a workout. Just remember to resume
your healthy lifestyle. If you keep moving forward and you don't let
guilt and discouragement stop your program all together, you'll eventually
have improved eating and exercise habits.
With this approach, there is no such thing as cheating. When we feel
we are cheating, we often punish ourselves; we make urselves feel guilty,
frustrated and defeated. Replacing the negative concept of "cheating"
with the idea of "straying from healthy habits" takes away
the all-or-nothing emphasis on right and wrong. If you treat every deviation
from your plan as a failure, you won't get very far.
Substituting the idea of a brief straying away from your plan instead
of feeling guilty, and learning to return more and more quickly to healthier
habits, is more realistic. It's also easier and more enjoyable.
In the non-diet approach, all foods are legal. There are no "good"
foods or "bad" foods. You must believe this. Sudden changes
and/or drastic restrictions of high-fat foods when you have a preference
or craving for fat will result in feelings of deprivation. No one can
or should go through life depriving themselves of foods they really
enjoy. You must learn how to make gradual healthy changes to the foods
you love while experimenting with and learning to appreciate new flavors
and textures.
A recent survey showed that more than 75 percent of people feel guilty
about eating so-called "bad" foods. The greatest obstacle
to adopting healthy eating habits is guilt. Attaching a value to foods
only makes you feel bad for eating them. When you do decide to eat a
high-fat food, enjoy it. Don't beat your-self up over it. Just make
a special effort to eat low-fat the rest of the day. Remember, there
is nothing wrong with splurging now and then. It can even be good for
you if the satisfaction of a higher-fat meal that you've been craving
helps you stick with a low-fat lifestyle the rest of the time.
If you're having a special diet meal that's different from what the
rest of your family or friends are eating, you'll feel as though you're
being punished. In order to be successful in changing your eating habits,
you must look forward to and enjoy each meal you eat. This doesn't mean
that you have to learn to like rice cakes and celery. It means you must
learn how to make simple changes in the foods you love.
Perhaps one of your favorite meals is fried chicken, a baked potato,
and salad. Small changes in how the food is prepared can turn this traditionally
high-fat meal into a low-fat well- balanced one. Simply marinating a
skinless chicken breast in sweet and sour sauce, rolling it in bread
crumbs, and baking it makes the chicken a lot less fattening than if
it's fried. Instead of butter or regular sour cream on your potato,
try low- fat or nonfat sour cream or a reduced fat ranch dressing. Try
using a non-fat or low-fat salad dressing rather than a regular dressing
and adding as many vegetables to your salad as possible for their additional
flavor, texture and nutrients. Any or all of these changes drastically
reduce the amount of fat in the meal without sacrificing flavor or feelings
of satisfaction.
Healthy eating patterns can only occur when you're enjoying all the
foods you eat. If you're eating low-fat foods just to be healthy but
without enjoying the flavors and textures or how they make you feel,
this most likely won't be a permanent change. However, if you begin
enjoying healthy foods, you're far more likely to stick with healthy
eating for life.
Many people also enjoy eating out but associate this with being "bad"
or eating "illegal" foods. Fortunately, it is very possible
to eat a healthy, low-fat meal in a restaurant. You don't need to forego
your favorite foods or eat before you go out with friends or family.
The same decision-making process occurs whether you eat at home or go
out to a restaurant. Many people think that they have two options when
eating: eating for taste and pleasure or eating for health. As you learn
and practice healthy eating techniques, these two options will become
one and the same. Good luck and enjoy all the wonderful benefits of
a healthy, active lifestyle.